tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12333976.post5364063980180750880..comments2024-02-18T15:43:14.717-05:00Comments on Moved to LivinLaVidaLowCarb.com/Blog: We've Decided To Give An IVF Cycle A Chance For Peace Of MindJimmy Moorehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08590225257991702645noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12333976.post-90770322142587753682007-12-02T15:53:00.000-05:002007-12-02T15:53:00.000-05:00PS..I am not sure my friend did the same process a...PS..I am not sure my friend did the same process as you are going through. But, to me, it is the same. To have a child..not matter how you go about it is a blessing no matter what. <BR/>Yours Truly, <BR/>MicheleMichelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09624081023958287230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12333976.post-60507486479840391152007-12-02T15:50:00.000-05:002007-12-02T15:50:00.000-05:00I am praying so hard for both of you right now!!!!...I am praying so hard for both of you right now!!!!! <BR/><BR/>My friend went through this TWICE! <BR/>Yes..TWICE. 10K+ each time. No..they are not rich either, but, the loans they took out, the perks they did without to have 2 of the most precious children was to them..priceless. <BR/><BR/>I have known them for years. In fact..for her 4th attempt (first 3 attempts failed) I went with her. I sat and massaged her head and sang Paul Anka's "Having A (my)Baby" using words that matched her and her husbands life. And she has a beautiful baby boy from that!! <BR/><BR/>Anyway, it is about you two..not anyone else. Right now you need all the positive energy and focus and that is what you got from, I am sure many more people that count and also, I believe from the man that matters most. <BR/><BR/>Having a baby...What a lovely way of saying how much love eachother, <BR/>Having a baby...what a lovely way of saying your thinking of the other..you can see its face a glowin'...we can see in your eyes your happy to know it! <BR/><BR/>Keep it up, this is the most important thing in your whole life, and if I could...I would pay for it ALL, for ya. But, my prayers seem to carry some weight..so you got those coming full force! <BR/>Yours Truly, MicheleMichelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09624081023958287230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12333976.post-45451363437875655582007-11-26T09:37:00.000-05:002007-11-26T09:37:00.000-05:00THANKS for sharing your comments, Dana, but as you...THANKS for sharing your comments, Dana, but as you stated I didn't say that. But this was an interesting quote from you:<BR/><BR/><I>But please don't begrudge those of us who did this without petri dishes. Y'know, we kinda envy you and your income, too. ;)</I><BR/><BR/>Ummm, if you are referring to me, then I can't help but laugh. My income is nothing to write home about and it's costing us a pretty penny to pay for this IVF/ICSI cycle. We're just borrowing on future income. :)<BR/><BR/>THANK YOU again for your comments!Jimmy Moorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08590225257991702645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12333976.post-32158138435055251412007-11-26T04:50:00.000-05:002007-11-26T04:50:00.000-05:00I wish you the best in your quest for children and...I wish you the best in your quest for children and I'm glad to see so many folks being supportive of you. That said...<BR/><BR/><I>Its a shame that there are people out there that are basically baby making machines (sometimes with siblings that have different fathers-or the fathers are unknown,AND that many of these children are born out of wedlock!) and that the government is providing for them(welfare & food stamps and in some cases child support because the parent or parents are in jail). These same people get free birth control, free prenatal care, and the cost of having the baby is free, then the immunizations are free and they go onto medicade and then their medical care is free, not to mention the WIC & Food For Families programs-which benefits the mother while pregnant and the baby til age 6.<BR/><BR/>Yet the government does nothing to help people who really want kids to get them, whether it is by adoption or medically helping the couple to conceive, their own biological child.</I><BR/><BR/>I know you didn't say this, but it is disgusting.<BR/><BR/>My children have two different fathers because my now-ex-husband became a felon and with the circumstances of that, I did not feel safe staying with him. It wasn't a violent crime but wow, he planned it for six months and I didn't know--what else didn't I know? Lack of trust destroys a marriage. I certainly wasn't going to go back to him later to help me make my second baby. My kids, by the way, are almost nine years apart in age.<BR/><BR/>I went on Medicaid when I was pregnant because I was a college student and the father wouldn't insure me, even though he could afford to. My daughter remained on Medicaid for a while after she was born because he didn't have health insurance from the end of my pregnancy until she was several months old. He insures her now, though.<BR/><BR/>And I am not married to him because, in the end, I could not trust him either. He comes through on money matters most of the time but when it gets down to the nitty-gritty of a relationship he falls woefully short. Again, if my prospective partner/spouse does not have my back and vice versa then how is that a basis for a good marriage?<BR/><BR/>My question is, I know there are lots of folks out there who want kids and can't have them the usual way, but what's that got to do with me? Why is the fact that I'm low-income and have had children somehow a threat to these people? Personally, I think it is bitterness because I won't just hand my kids over to some childless rich married woman. I'm not basing this on wild hypothesizing; I've SEEN this kind of attitude bandied about. It's horrible. It's also potentially abusive to children; I've read all about attachment parenting and observed the behavior of my own daughter from the time of her birth and I really think that babies being needlessly taken from their mothers hurts them on a deep emotional level. I don't think it an accident that adopted children have a higher rate of behavioral problems. If the child is an orphan or their parents are really, incurably messed up then OK, they need a home. But to rag all over a single mother or a poor mother and make her feel worthless and then take her child? No.<BR/><BR/>And I did want my children, both of them. Very, very much. So do women who live on welfare, if you can call it "living"--the only government assistance I got was WIC and Medicaid, neither of which I get now--and somehow I doubt they appreciate being told they didn't want their kids, or they're being evil because your tax money's being spent on them. The alternative is breaking up families or letting people die, because if someone can't make enough money to feed their families then they just can't make that money, and you can't MAKE your employer pay you more, or MAKE another employer hire you instead.<BR/><BR/>Or, put more simply, as I hear in my own online social circles, "Wow--these people don't want me to use birth control, don't want me to get an abortion, but they don't want me to have my child either? WHAT THE HECK AM I SUPPOSED TO DO THEN?" Because once a woman's pregnant, you can't make it not have happened. And frankly, we waste tax money on far worse. In the end, kids in single-parent families do no worse than kids with two parents once you control for income and environmental stability. And in the end, it's really about them.<BR/><BR/>Good luck. But please don't begrudge those of us who did this without petri dishes. Y'know, we kinda envy you and your income, too. ;)Dana Seilhanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11749354913843954242noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12333976.post-1948428718933836052007-11-22T09:12:00.000-05:002007-11-22T09:12:00.000-05:00You might actually consider flying to India for yo...You might actually consider flying to India for your IVF/ICSI treatment. An ICSI cycle in our clinic ( www.drmalpani.com) costs only US $ 3500 - so that even if you added the costs of the airline tickets you'd be able to do about 3 cycles for the cost of 1 cycle in the US. Our pregnancy rates are excellent - and we can also offer a guaranteed pregnancy option !Dr Aniruddha Malpanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05693466221743076739noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12333976.post-22019567986590806682007-11-18T22:20:00.000-05:002007-11-18T22:20:00.000-05:00Dear Jimmy and Christine,You and your wife will be...Dear Jimmy and Christine,<BR/>You and your wife will be in my prayers for sure for the next couple of months. I have a great burden for those wanting a child and have not been able to conceive. There are times I wonder why God gave me 14 children and the next couple none. But may you and your wife be pleasantly surprised by what God has in store for you in the near future. As you and your wife have been givers to so many, He will reward you beyond all that you can ask or think.<BR/>Blessings to you both,<BR/>Michigan Mommy of Many<BR/>www.14gems.blogspot.comMommy of Manyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11990542160477327974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12333976.post-33913626177941458302007-11-17T22:13:00.000-05:002007-11-17T22:13:00.000-05:00I can't believe how incredibly insensitve some peo...I can't believe how incredibly insensitve some people can be and judging from some of the comments or emails you posted, you have some insensitive readers. You also have some wonderfully supportive readers. <BR/>My prayers are that God continue to guide and direct your lives through his will will for you and that he give you the strength to accept that will as a blessing, no matter what the outcome.lisa32989https://www.blogger.com/profile/00548671362823223110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12333976.post-24855253196244733042007-11-16T21:37:00.000-05:002007-11-16T21:37:00.000-05:00Jimmy and Christine-I know this has been (continue...Jimmy and Christine-<BR/><BR/>I know this has been (continues to be) a difficult time for you both but I'm glad to see that that you are pursuing IVF/ICSI. Expensive? Yes. But I felt the same way...I had to try and not face regrets later.<BR/><BR/>The drug regimen can be hard. But don't let everyone's horror stories scare you. Everyone reacts differently and I suspect that Christine will hold up fine...for the greater good.<BR/><BR/>Please continue to share your road to parenthood with your readers and we will continue to cheer you on to where ever that road takes you.Scale Mistresshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07439449415388442584noreply@blogger.com