tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12333976.post6442818703460772181..comments2024-02-18T15:43:14.717-05:00Comments on Moved to LivinLaVidaLowCarb.com/Blog: 400-Pounder: 'I Feel Like My Life Is Almost Over'Jimmy Moorehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08590225257991702645noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12333976.post-7892343752045267842007-05-03T19:20:00.000-04:002007-05-03T19:20:00.000-04:00I, too, have a friend in the 300 lb range.I hear o...I, too, have a friend in the 300 lb range.<BR/><BR/>I hear one excuse after another about why she can't begin her preferred way of eating. (Sonoma - not really low carb, but certainly lower carb than the SAD) Yep, you heard that right, she's picked out a plan, she wants to do it, but there's a million reasons why she can't.<BR/> <BR/><BR/>I used to try to encourage her to just do it - to just do whatever it took to eat the way she believes she should eat... but I've pretty much given up doing that, because there's one reason after another why she just <I>can't.</I> Any time the subject even comes up, she becomes somewhat hostile about it - and I'm not even the one bringing up the subject! She starts it, but anymore, it seems like she's only doing it to have a chance to continue to express her argument that she can't do it. <BR/><BR/><BR/>I also hear from her the same things about how she thinks her life is over, because her physical abilities are deteriorating, and she feels so bad. She only has one or two chronic health problems. Unfortunately, when you have a chronic health problem, you treat those with medication, the medication makes you feel even worse, so there's more medication to control the side effects, which has it's own side effects and requires more medication to control those... Eventually you just get to the point where you feel bad, and it's unclear whether it's from the weight, the chronic health problem, or all the medications.<BR/><BR/>In a way, I understand her frustrations, and her inability to do what's necessary to begin... but then I remember back before I began low carb, and remember all the excuses I made too. That's when I have to come to the conclusion that she's not going to start her new life until the old one is so intolerable that she has no other choice.Caliannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00055882170095208056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12333976.post-25726787132837099302007-05-03T16:51:00.000-04:002007-05-03T16:51:00.000-04:00You are exactly RIGHT, D! He does need support an...You are exactly RIGHT, D! He does need support and I hope he continues to seek it out here at my blog and at those sites you mentioned,<BR/><BR/>Cherry, your question is a very good one and I have answered it previously in <A HREF="http://livinlavidalocarb.blogspot.com/2006/05/confronting-obese-about-their-weight.html" REL="nofollow">this blog post</A>. There is a fine line between nagging and lovingly helping them understand.<BR/><BR/>I'm dealing with this very thing with my 600-pound brother. He just won't listen to me and it can be frustrating. But I've come to the realization that the individual needs to make up their mind to do this. You can't force it, unfortunately.<BR/><BR/>My wife used to nag me and I hated it. When she stopped and just loved me for who I was, I finally opened my eyes to livin' la vida low-carb. The rest is history.Jimmy Moorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08590225257991702645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12333976.post-5416313944974120412007-05-03T16:40:00.000-04:002007-05-03T16:40:00.000-04:00I have a friend who is 300 pounds, I keep telling ...I have a friend who is 300 pounds, I keep telling her that she need to do Weight loss surgery since it looks like she can't lose a thing (she give up hope already).<BR/><BR/>How do you motivate such person to realize that she need to drop 150 pounds not for the sake of good looking but for the sake of healty good long life ?Cherryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13621621002197007621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12333976.post-78293118666110600182007-05-03T08:57:00.000-04:002007-05-03T08:57:00.000-04:00Jimmy, this fella needs support. If he doesn't hav...Jimmy, this fella needs support. If he doesn't have family or friends willing to help, then he needs to find an online support group. People who post in these groups are more then willing to give low carb advice, help, and most of all, encouragement to those who are trying to lose weight. Just for starters, there is Low Carb Eating, Low Carb Friends, and George Stella has a forum on his website. Best advice - get a book, read it, make a shopping list, and get started. I sure wish him success.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15334039096606194755noreply@blogger.com